I would never diminish the challenge and say that it would be easy, Hydra.
But dear, when we grow up, we learn that not only do we have the family we are born into, we have the families we choose. And those families we choose can teach us what we need to know, that we might not have learned in our first families.
I know, from watching the two of you, that you loved Justin. You truly did, Hydra, despite the fact that you had very little example of a loving marriage to follow from watching your own parents, isn't that right?
Forgive me for bringing it up, because (as a widow myself!) I know that thinking about what happened to him is incredibly painful. But take hope from that, from the fact that you knew how to love Justin, despite not having any example at home. Given that, you can trust that you will be able to love your baby.
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Re: Private message to Hydra
Date: 2015-09-01 12:52 am (UTC)But dear, when we grow up, we learn that not only do we have the family we are born into, we have the families we choose. And those families we choose can teach us what we need to know, that we might not have learned in our first families.
I know, from watching the two of you, that you loved Justin. You truly did, Hydra, despite the fact that you had very little example of a loving marriage to follow from watching your own parents, isn't that right?
Forgive me for bringing it up, because (as a widow myself!) I know that thinking about what happened to him is incredibly painful. But take hope from that, from the fact that you knew how to love Justin, despite not having any example at home. Given that, you can trust that you will be able to love your baby.